Someone Died Today
I had to take paper & pen
The sorrow, it bothered me,
again & again.
What words would I use?
Honestly, what more could I say?
See, in my building complex?…
Someone died today.
I didn’t know him too well,
just hi’s and byes.
I didn’t like him too much, as he constantly gave
his wife swollen & distorted features, complimented
I had stopped telling him hello,
The sight of his wife, mother of his children,
simply made me sigh.
Women stay with these men,
fully laden with children.
Yet you can see, they’re dead inside.
His wife got a shoulder wound,
she came out the best.
He was felled, with 4 bullets to his chest.
Some may ask why?
Well, honestly, he wasn’t a nice guy.
But he was a life, I wonder who cried?
Was this his fate? Because karma is real.
No more beatings…I wonder how she feels?
Police, sirens, ambulance, screeching of wheels…
I took pen to paper,
for I simply had to say,
Right where I live? Someone died today.
©️12/23/2020 Maxwanette A Poetess
*I tried not to think about it, but it was difficult. So as a Poetess should, I put it in prose.
(Based On Personal Experiences)
I have been silent for a few days. I was thinking of recent & past situations. I have learned to calm my emotions, before responding.
“A clear & calm mind & heart produces clear actions.”
That being said…
We had this “Me Too” movement, that didn’t really help many, in everyday life. I find that sexual harassment is still running rampant. You can still find it everywhere & yes, it’s in the Poetry world as well, BIG-TIME. Things are just more subtle. Like the movements of a hungry snake. Keeping in mind, it occurs more from men towards women, but it happens across the board.
So what do we do about it? How many people really wish to address it? Not many. Because it’s EVERYWHERE and we know, it will take more than just a few old celebrities going to jail. It’s wa-a-a-ay deeper than that. This type of behavior is systematic & cultural. As women, we’re often forced to deal with it, like it or not. Men, often do not wish to discuss it, many feel uncomfortable because they’re guilty of it or just don’t know how to help. Is it fair? No.
So, one has to be aware in life. Don’t just trust people because you think you should; this can be friends, family, loved ones, co-workers, anyone, pay attention to those vibes/feelings you get that says something isn’t quite right, shut it down immediately, or as soon as you notice it – it may come at a sacrifice, but it’s worth it in the long run. Don’t feel guilty because you experienced it.
Educate yourself and get wise, these people have perfected their game, and become masters of manipulation. Own any role you have in it, and correct yourself, be firm and clear where you stand.
See, people who sexually harass others, hope you go along or keep silent. It has much to do with power & control. They seek leverage with their authority, positions, & roles they may have in life. People who are charming & expressive by nature make great manipulators. Certain professions; law enforcement, judges, doctors, teachers, mentors, even people you know, love & care about. This also includes musicians, writers, and Poets. Be Careful! They can talk & woo you into a place, you may not want to be. It really includes anyone. Should you be paranoid & scared of everyone? No. Simply be mindful & pay attention.
Stand Up For Yourself!
It may be difficult, but only YOU can do so. Delete, block, & ignore. Let it be known that, that type of treatment, behavior, and or innuendo is not acceptable nor will it be entertained, encouraged, or tolerated, and walk away from whatever they had on the table,
SHUT IT DOWN!
…even if it means losing out on certain opportunities – it could be a few in a group or 1 person, but you cross paths due to projects/ jobs.
It’s not easy to deal with, and for some, therapy is needed and even legal assistance. We lose out often. It’s time to put an end to this.
KNOW THAT YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING
Waking up EVERY day, looking at yourself in the mirror feeling good about who YOU are, then going to bed the same way & sleeping well…That? That’s priceless.
Remember, that no one has the right to try to use you or make you feel less than who you are.
The Positivity Derived: These types of experiences can be utilized & benefited from, by talking about it, encouraging research, development, creativity, and or inventing opportunities and other methods of getting things done.
🌹✍🏾”We’re All In This Thing Called Life, TOGETHER…Remember?”✍🏾🌹
“Namastè & One Love”❤️💛💚
~Maxwanette A Poetess
*A Special Thank You: To the 1 gentleman that I shared this experience with. He stated, he would support me in my stand. That means a lot.
“Love Doesn’t Hurt”
Help In The Caribbean
“Leave Me Alone”
“Fire In Belize”
“We are your Mothers, Sisters, Aunts, Grandmothers,
Wives, Cousins, Fiancés, Girlfriends & Daughters. We bring forth & nurture LIFE & LOVE. We deserve to be treated better & decently. A World and or Society that treats women; the carriers of life, poorly? Shall be reduced to nothing.”~Maxwanette A Poetess
“Namastè & One Love”❤️💛💚
Since 1981, Latin America commemorates every 25th of November the day against gender-based violence. The feminist movements of the region, with one of the highest rates of violence against women, coined that date in honor of Dominicans Minerva, Patria, and María Teresa Mirabal, three sisters murdered and tortured on November 25, 1960, by order of the dictator Rafael Leonidas Trujillo, whom they opposed. Years later, in 1999, the UN joined the day of protest and declared every 25th of November the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women, in honor of the Mirabal sisters.
November 25 is a day of pain and anger, a day of protest and vindication, but also a day of solidarity and desire to conquer an authentic equality between women and men.
On this day, teleSUR has compiled some quotes of feminist authors and activists from different countries. We want to raise our voices this November 25 because we do not want a setback and a lack of protection of the rights of all women, who with so much sacrifice and struggle have overcome many obstacles.
“I support many causes. Domestic Violence (DV), is one of the most important ones. I grew up watching my father, beating my Mother. My Mother always fought back. By the time I was 3 years old, she had enough & divorced my father. But in our culture (Jamaican), beating & abusing Women was the norm. Sadly it’s still in full practice & many fail to see or care to the lives taken, damages done to Women & Children. It can last a lifetime.
This did however have an affect on me. I was never physically abused by any man. Instead I became hardened, defensive, combative, over protective & willing to fight to the death at the drop of a hat. Men were scared of me. This was the purpose to protect myself, but I experienced other forms of abuse;verbal, emotional, psychological & by monetary means. I lost my femininity, and marinated in my masculinity, simply to survive…
These experiences tainted my views of self & life. This poem derived from this experience & finally breaking free from the hold it had on my existence.”~Maxwanette A Poetess